When I was 8 months pregnant with our second son, I fell and broke both my legs.
Yes, that’s me with my eldest son, Evan, and behind him is the only tool I could use to get around my house…a walker.
Right after this photo was taken, I was introduced to the second tool I didn’t know I needed until I needed it…a bedside commode.
You know how often a pregnant woman needs to pee when in late term pregnancy, right?!
For me, a hard-charging, Type-A, bread-winning, ladder-climbing wife and mom, staying still while others took care of me, and did everything I was doing was very uncomfortable, not to mention a shock to my ego!
If I wanted functioning legs, and a healthy baby, however, I needed to stay still, heal my bones, and bake my baby.
When I finally delivered my little Smiley Riley, got both casts off, and was able to actually walk while holding my 3 week old infant, I felt totally liberated!
If I can do this with my sense of humor in tact…I CAN DO ANYTHING!
18 months later, I started my first business, MommyLoves, and double my revenue each year for the next four years!
Then the year turned 2008.
My business dropped by half that year.
I tried to get more drop ship or wholesale clients.
I tried to introduce another product, and borrowed $10,000 on a credit card to do so.
My business dropped by half again in 2009.
I tried doing Google Adwords.
My credit card interest rate increased to 39.8%
My business dropped by half again in 2010.
My accountant kept asking me why I held on to this failing business
I told him that I just couldn’t let go.
I couldn’t let my business fail, because if I did, that meant I failed.
My accountant shared some amazing wisdom with me.
You are not your business.
I gave him a wet, salty kiss through my tears.
Thankfully, my accountant is my husband.
Together, we paid off the upward spiral of debt that was now $40,000 by liquidating my retirement account.
I restructured MommyLoves by outsourcing everything, selling all my equipment except my computer, and taking a deep, calming, cleansing breath, and repeating my new mantra.
I am not my business.
Throughout the rest of 2011, and all of 2012, I finished my book about my experience breaking both legs while pregnant. I started a new business, Help Me Self Publish, because I start businesses based on my own needs.
I shut that business down in 2013. I didn’t like formatting and editing books as much as I liked writing and reading them.
I had developed a routine of deep, calming, cleansing breaths coupled with meditation which turned into my personal P.O.W.E.R. morning routine.
My oldest son started high school, and I had another realization (thankfully without all the drama of the other one).
My identity is not Mom.
The role of business owner, parent, wife, etc. are not who I am. Those roles are external to me, and I choose to fulfill them with every ounce of my being from a place of love, compassion, gratitude and success, but they are not me.
If my business fails, I do not die.
If my kids leave home, I do not die.
If my husband leaves, I do not die.
If I hang on to these roles as my definition of myself, I cannot create true success in life, and I cannot truly love and support my business, my kids, my husband or my community.
I started the website and blog Parent Entrepreneur Success in the fall of 2013.
I started the accompanying podcast Parent Entrepreneur Power January, 2014, and I have had the distinct pleasure and honor of interviewing some absolutely incredible parents building successful lives and businesses.
I have been mentoring other parents to build successful online businesses since 2013.
Welcome to the community, my friend, and hang on for the ride.
Enjoy the Journey!